10 Commandments for a Narcissist’s Wife

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  1. Your Husband is a narcissist. You shall not try to deny it. He has brought you out of the land of Well-Being, and into a house of bondage. You shall not put his needs before yours, unless he hath reciprocated.

  2. You shall desire, respect, and seek to attain positive traits, and qualities, which he does not possess. Through your good example, you shall you seek to influence your narcissist husband to obtain such traits for himself. You shall continuously seek self-improvement, so that he has no choice other than to grow with you, or be left behind.

  3. You shall praise conservatively (and reasonably) the behaviors, that show kindness, consideration, empathy, thoughtfulness, or any other positive quality, exhibited by the narcissist. Bad behavior shall be completely ignored, or addressed quickly, then let go. You shall remember that your narcissist is, basically, a two-year-old…emotionally speaking.

  4. Remember that every day is sacred. Today is the only day when change can take place. Now is the only moment with the power to heal. Now is the only moment with any power at all…Pay attention to it.

  5. You shall NOT entertain, or tolerate, those people who the narcissist has charmed and wooed, for they are convinced that he is “such a great guy”, and they will receive more respect, and kindness than you- even under your own roof. Do NOT allow it.

  6. You shall NOT allow the narcissist to murder your innocence, or make you cynical. You shall not allow the narcissist to break your heart, but rather, allow him to break your heart OPEN WIDE, and allow to flow in a greater capacity for empathy, compassion, and unconditional love. No matter how hard it might get, hold on to your belief in love, and miracles, and Happily Ever After. They exist.

  7. You shall not tolerate the ultimate betrayal: infidelity. Period. And, just in case, regularly get yourself tested for STD’s. I know…I know… But, thou dost not want thy gentalia to itch and burn….dost thou!?

  8. You shall keep all your valuables locked away. The narcissist doesn’t recognize any difference between what is his, and what he believes should be his. He will steal from you without a second thought. Guard your possessions.

  9. You shall NOT stay silent about abuse. You shall ALWAYS remain in contact with friends, family, neighbors, acquaintances, community members, your local law enforcement agency, etc., and not allow yourself to become isolated…this is the breeding ground for abuse.

  10. Do not envy the narcissist, for there is nothing more than an empty void inside… one that needs you in order to fill it. And though, having a husband who is a narcissist is painful, do not ever even think of leaving without a meticulous plan. The narcissist may not love you…..but you better not abandon him, or else… You. Will. Pay.

Be safe, always…

~The Narcissist’s Wife

Hi. I’m Story Lynne, (a.k.a. The Narcissist’s Wife). Nice to meet you. I’m the mother of 4 amazing kids, the (soon-to-be-ex) wife of a narcissist, and the author of this blog. I’m also a teacher, a healer, an intuitive empath, and Angel Card Reader.
I love fairies, angels, the color pink, anything sparkly, and Legos. (the Elves are my absolute favorites). I also love fixing cars, building shit, and shooting my bow (as in, bow and arrow).

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