What Does TRUE Accountability Look Like?

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
That's it! I've had enough. He's gone too far, this time, and I've HAD IT! I can't take another moment of his torture. I'm outta here! Your overnight bag is packed, and you've arranged to stay a few days with your parents, or a friend. You are SERIOUSLY DONE with his shit. He crossed the line SO FAR this time, you're seeing red and you're ready to sign the injunction... (more…)
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Private Mentoring

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
One-on-one mentoring to help you to break the cycle of abuse in your life and start living a life of true love and joy. Private mentoring means that you can get the help you need, in the areas you need it most. Whether you're struggling to improve your self-esteem, detach from the narcissist or, heal your inner-trauma enough to plan your escape... private mentoring means that you've got a ton of support but, also, customized resources that can help you achieve your goals. Contact me, if you'd like more info. [contact-form to="thenarcswife@gmail.com" subject="Private Mentoring Info Request"][contact-field label="Name" type="name" required="1"][contact-field label="Email" type="email" required="1"][contact-field label="Phone (if you'd prefer a call-back)" type="text"][contact-field label="Narc-Status" type="checkbox-multiple" required="1" options="Married to a narcissist,In a relationship with a narcissist (but, NOT married),Divorcing a narcissist,Divorced from/No longer with a…
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10 Safety Tips to Keep in Mind Once You’ve Decided to Leave

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
Ending your relationship with an intimate partner is rarely easy. But, If your partner is abusive or controlling, leaving him could be dangerous and, in some cases, even deadly. When planning to leave an abusive relationship, safety needs to be your #1 priority. Especially if children are involved. A history of physical abuse in your relationship can be a strong indicator of an abuser's likelihood of using violence when you try to leave the relationship. But, often enough, the perpetrator of assault and/or murder will have had no previous record of domestic violence. Sadly, it is that very lack of previous incidents that can lull a woman into developing a false sense of security. She may (mistakenly) believe that because he hasn't ever hit her before, that means he never…
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Divorcing A Narcissist- Part 2 High Drama & (Seriously) Low Blows

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
On one unexceptional Monday evening, in September 2016, I found myself standing frozen in my hallway, holding the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage I’d just been served. A single loose sheet of paper lay on top of the stack. My father found it hidden within the thick packet of the divorce petition. On that page, in bold, was printed;  Notice of Expedited Hearing for Petitioner’s  Ex Parte Motion for Temporary Custody    Apparently, my husband attempted to schedule a custody hearing Ex Parte. Meaning, ‘without ME’. I fought the urge to totally flip out. It appeared as though he did not succeed in getting that hearing (Thank you, God!), seeing as how I received notice that it would be taking place… in just two days.  I had a mere 34…
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The Truth Will ALWAYS Out: Part 2 

The Truth Will ALWAYS Out: Part 2 

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
Dealing with malicious and outrageous lies is just a small part of the various punishments you can expect to endure, when leaving a narcissist. But, you needn't waste your time defending yourself against his lies. Not only will it prove to be an effort in futility anyway. But, also, because- with a pinch of patience and a little dash of faith- you'll see that, eventually, in the end: The Truth Will Always Out.  [Check Out Part 1 of The Truth Will Always Out] Part 1 ended with a very interesting phone call.... "You have to promise not to freak out, ok?", my mother's voice cryptically pleaded, on the other end of the line. "Fine, Mom. Whatever... Could you, at least, tell me that no one is dead, or seriously injured?"…
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