A Light in the Darkness: A Story of Hope in the Face of Abuse

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
I know that my approach to healing the trauma of narcissistic abuse/domestic violence, and moving forward after it, isn’t exactly the norm. I promote forgiveness, and having faith. I encourage holding on to hope in the face of abuse. I don’t promote anger, hate, revenge, bashing narcissists (though, cracking jokes about their insanity is, honestly, pretty much unavoidable) or, spending years rehashing every abuse (at length) in narc forums/groups. Many people might disagree but, I believe that our healing comes from a combination of gaining higher understanding, absolute accountability for our experience, the release of traumas past & present, and the cultivation of unconditional self-love and self-acceptance. And, I know that the ability to see things, from a positive perspective is a serious game-changer. My heinous experience of narcissistic abuse…
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How to Make the Narcissist Pay

How to Make the Narcissist Pay

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
I get these kinds of questions a lot: "Isn't there some way to make the narcissist suffer, the way I've suffered?" "Isn't there some way to make him pay?!” "What? He gets to just walk away, while my life, my heart, my mind, and my spirit are left devastated?!?! It isn't fair!" For today, I'll spare you the, 'This life, with all its mysteries, is just too damn perfect to be fair' speech. (Although, if you're going to keep reading on this site, or if you plan to get involved in any of my coming-in-the-very-near-future programs, you'll have to resign yourself to hearing it, at least, once. LOL) Besides, I totally get it. You want to make him pay. You want him to answer for all the cruel things he's…
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What Does TRUE Accountability Look Like?

What Does TRUE Accountability Look Like?

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
That's it! I've had enough. He's gone too far, this time, and I've HAD IT! I can't take another moment of his torture. I'm outta here! Your overnight bag is packed, and you've arranged to stay a few days with your parents, or a friend. You are SERIOUSLY DONE with his shit. He crossed the line SO FAR this time, you're seeing red and you're ready to sign the injunction... (more…)
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Private Mentoring

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
One-on-one mentoring to help you to break the cycle of abuse in your life and start living a life of true love and joy. Private mentoring means that you can get the help you need, in the areas you need it most. Whether you're struggling to improve your self-esteem, detach from the narcissist or, heal your inner-trauma enough to plan your escape... private mentoring means that you've got a ton of support but, also, customized resources that can help you achieve your goals. Contact me, if you'd like more info. [contact-form to="thenarcswife@gmail.com" subject="Private Mentoring Info Request"][contact-field label="Name" type="name" required="1"][contact-field label="Email" type="email" required="1"][contact-field label="Phone (if you'd prefer a call-back)" type="text"][contact-field label="Narc-Status" type="checkbox-multiple" required="1" options="Married to a narcissist,In a relationship with a narcissist (but, NOT married),Divorcing a narcissist,Divorced from/No longer with a…
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10 Safety Tips to Keep in Mind Once You’ve Decided to Leave

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
Ending your relationship with an intimate partner is rarely easy. But, If your partner is abusive or controlling, leaving him could be dangerous and, in some cases, even deadly. When planning to leave an abusive relationship, safety needs to be your #1 priority. Especially if children are involved. A history of physical abuse in your relationship can be a strong indicator of an abuser's likelihood of using violence when you try to leave the relationship. But, often enough, the perpetrator of assault and/or murder will have had no previous record of domestic violence. Sadly, it is that very lack of previous incidents that can lull a woman into developing a false sense of security. She may (mistakenly) believe that because he hasn't ever hit her before, that means he never…
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