10 Safety Tips to Keep in Mind Once You’ve Decided to Leave

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
Ending your relationship with an intimate partner is rarely easy. But, If your partner is abusive or controlling, leaving him could be dangerous and, in some cases, even deadly. When planning to leave an abusive relationship, safety needs to be your #1 priority. Especially if children are involved. A history of physical abuse in your relationship can be a strong indicator of an abuser's likelihood of using violence when you try to leave the relationship. But, often enough, the perpetrator of assault and/or murder will have had no previous record of domestic violence. Sadly, it is that very lack of previous incidents that can lull a woman into developing a false sense of security. She may (mistakenly) believe that because he hasn't ever hit her before, that means he never…
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Divorcing A Narcissist- Part 2 High Drama & (Seriously) Low Blows

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
On one unexceptional Monday evening, in September 2016, I found myself standing frozen in my hallway, holding the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage I’d just been served. A single loose sheet of paper lay on top of the stack. My father found it hidden within the thick packet of the divorce petition. On that page, in bold, was printed;  Notice of Expedited Hearing for Petitioner’s  Ex Parte Motion for Temporary Custody    Apparently, my husband attempted to schedule a custody hearing Ex Parte. Meaning, ‘without ME’. I fought the urge to totally flip out. It appeared as though he did not succeed in getting that hearing (Thank you, God!), seeing as how I received notice that it would be taking place… in just two days.  I had a mere 34…
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The Truth Will ALWAYS Out: Part 2 

The Truth Will ALWAYS Out: Part 2 

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
Dealing with malicious and outrageous lies is just a small part of the various punishments you can expect to endure, when leaving a narcissist. But, you needn't waste your time defending yourself against his lies. Not only will it prove to be an effort in futility anyway. But, also, because- with a pinch of patience and a little dash of faith- you'll see that, eventually, in the end: The Truth Will Always Out.  [Check Out Part 1 of The Truth Will Always Out] Part 1 ended with a very interesting phone call.... "You have to promise not to freak out, ok?", my mother's voice cryptically pleaded, on the other end of the line. "Fine, Mom. Whatever... Could you, at least, tell me that no one is dead, or seriously injured?"…
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Truth Will ALWAYS Out…

Truth Will ALWAYS Out…

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
To say, "Leaving a narcissist is hard", might just qualify as the understatement of the year. You will- without a doubt- endure the most vile, and very public, smear campaigning of your life- among other various punishments. And, while you might be tempted to exhaust yourself, trying to convince everyone of your innocence... don't. It'll be a waste of your time, and what precious, little energy you've got left. Besides, the truth will always out. Trust me. A narcissist's vindictiveness is almost always traumatic and, not to be underestimated. Ever. If you're planning to leave a narcissist/psychopath, make sure you have a detailed plan to do so SAFELY! The minute I had my safe escape plan in place, I made my move.  A little over a year ago, I'd finally…
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Divorcing A Narcissist: High Drama & (Seriously) Low-Blows

Divorcing A Narcissist: High Drama & (Seriously) Low-Blows

Leaving the Narcissist
I was served with #divorce papers, on a quiet Monday evening, by my friendly neighborhood sheriff's deputy. I'd been napping because I was feeling a bit under the weather that day. So, I was, really, NOT in the mood for this latest episode of legal drama. I set the papers aside, and told myself I would deal with them in the morning. OK, fine. Realistically, I probably wouldn't have touched those papers again for a week. I did have 20 days to respond, though. So, I figured, why rush to read something that would, undoubtedly, only serve to piss me off? The logic seemed totally airtight, to me. It was a stroke of unbelievably good fortune that my father's curiosity had been piqued by the sudden and unexpected arrival of these particular…
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