Divorcing A Narcissist- Part 2 High Drama & (Seriously) Low Blows

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
On one unexceptional Monday evening, in September 2016, I found myself standing frozen in my hallway, holding the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage I’d just been served. A single loose sheet of paper lay on top of the stack. My father found it hidden within the thick packet of the divorce petition. On that page, in bold, was printed;  Notice of Expedited Hearing for Petitioner’s  Ex Parte Motion for Temporary Custody    Apparently, my husband attempted to schedule a custody hearing Ex Parte. Meaning, ‘without ME’. I fought the urge to totally flip out. It appeared as though he did not succeed in getting that hearing (Thank you, God!), seeing as how I received notice that it would be taking place… in just two days.  I had a mere 34…
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The Truth Will ALWAYS Out: Part 2 

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
Dealing with malicious and outrageous lies is just a small part of the various punishments you can expect to endure, when leaving a narcissist. But, you needn't waste your time defending yourself against his lies. Not only will it prove to be an effort in futility anyway. But, also, because- with a pinch of patience and a little dash of faith- you'll see that, eventually, in the end: The Truth Will Always Out.  [Check Out Part 1 of The Truth Will Always Out] Part 1 ended with a very interesting phone call.... "You have to promise not to freak out, ok?", my mother's voice cryptically pleaded, on the other end of the line. "Fine, Mom. Whatever... Could you, at least, tell me that no one is dead, or seriously injured?"…
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Truth Will ALWAYS Out…

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
To say, "Leaving a narcissist is hard", might just qualify as the understatement of the year. You will- without a doubt- endure the most vile, and very public, smear campaigning of your life- among other various punishments. And, while you might be tempted to exhaust yourself, trying to convince everyone of your innocence... don't. It'll be a waste of your time, and what precious, little energy you've got left. Besides, the truth will always out. Trust me. A narcissist's vindictiveness is almost always traumatic and, not to be underestimated. Ever. If you're planning to leave a narcissist/psychopath, make sure you have a detailed plan to do so SAFELY! The minute I had my safe escape plan in place, I made my move.  A little over a year ago, I'd finally…
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After the Discard: One Year Later

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
After the discard One year later, almost to the day, and life is nothing like I imagined it would be. In some ways, it's better than I could've hoped for. In some ways, not so much. Only one thing really matters, though. I'm finally free. One year ago, almost to the day,  I was struggling to process how the hell I'd been discarded... AFTER my husband, and I, had already separated. One year ago, I was so beat down, I could barely fake normal functioning. Weighing a mere 92 lbs.- with my bones making sharp angles, where there should have been curves- I'd aged over a decade in just two years. {Read this post too: Narcissists Will FIND A Way to Discard}   My hair had thinned considerably, and my teeth had…
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Taking the First Step Toward Healing

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
The year 2016 is over. But, fortunately, the story of my life is not. For a hot minute there, that wasn't an obvious given. When I look back at 2016, I see a year that started off with the best intentions but, quickly descended into one debacle, after another, of epic proportions. It was a year of pain, heartache, loss, and grief. It was a year of acknowledging a lot repressed rage, and resentments. It was also a year of guilt and shame. Of regret. Of wishing the story had gone differently than it did. It was a year of feeling like a total failure... At everything. Of recognizing that I didn't really accomplish any of my goals. All in all, 2016 was a year of massive disappointment. Especially, in…
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