Truth Will ALWAYS Out…

Truth Will ALWAYS Out…

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
To say, "Leaving a narcissist is hard", might just qualify as the understatement of the year. You will- without a doubt- endure the most vile, and very public, smear campaigning of your life- among other various punishments. And, while you might be tempted to exhaust yourself, trying to convince everyone of your innocence... don't. It'll be a waste of your time, and what precious, little energy you've got left. Besides, the truth will always out. Trust me. A narcissist's vindictiveness is almost always traumatic and, not to be underestimated. Ever. If you're planning to leave a narcissist/psychopath, make sure you have a detailed plan to do so SAFELY! The minute I had my safe escape plan in place, I made my move.  A little over a year ago, I'd finally…
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After the Discard: One Year Later

After the Discard: One Year Later

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
After the discard One year later, almost to the day, and life is nothing like I imagined it would be. In some ways, it's better than I could've hoped for. In some ways, not so much. Only one thing really matters, though. I'm finally free. One year ago, almost to the day,  I was struggling to process how the hell I'd been discarded... AFTER my husband, and I, had already separated. One year ago, I was so beat down, I could barely fake normal functioning. Weighing a mere 92 lbs.- with my bones making sharp angles, where there should have been curves- I'd aged over a decade in just two years. {Read this post too: Narcissists Will FIND A Way to Discard}   My hair had thinned considerably, and my teeth had…
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Taking the First Step Toward Healing

Taking the First Step Toward Healing

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
The year 2016 is over. But, fortunately, the story of my life is not. For a hot minute there, that wasn't an obvious given. When I look back at 2016, I see a year that started off with the best intentions but, quickly descended into one debacle, after another, of epic proportions. It was a year of pain, heartache, loss, and grief. It was a year of acknowledging a lot repressed rage, and resentments. It was also a year of guilt and shame. Of regret. Of wishing the story had gone differently than it did. It was a year of feeling like a total failure... At everything. Of recognizing that I didn't really accomplish any of my goals. All in all, 2016 was a year of massive disappointment. Especially, in…
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Divorcing A Narcissist: High Drama & (Seriously) Low-Blows

Divorcing A Narcissist: High Drama & (Seriously) Low-Blows

Leaving the Narcissist
I was served with #divorce papers, on a quiet Monday evening, by my friendly neighborhood sheriff's deputy. I'd been napping because I was feeling a bit under the weather that day. So, I was, really, NOT in the mood for this latest episode of legal drama. I set the papers aside, and told myself I would deal with them in the morning. OK, fine. Realistically, I probably wouldn't have touched those papers again for a week. I did have 20 days to respond, though. So, I figured, why rush to read something that would, undoubtedly, only serve to piss me off? The logic seemed totally airtight, to me. It was a stroke of unbelievably good fortune that my father's curiosity had been piqued by the sudden and unexpected arrival of these particular…
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10 Commandments for a Narcissist’s Wife

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
Your Husband is a narcissist. You shall not try to deny it. He has brought you out of the land of Well-Being, and into a house of bondage. You shall not put his needs before yours, unless he hath reciprocated. You shall desire, respect, and seek to attain positive traits, and qualities, which he does not possess. Through your good example, you shall you seek to influence your narcissist husband to obtain such traits for himself. You shall continuously seek self-improvement, so that he has no choice other than to grow with you, or be left behind. You shall praise conservatively (and reasonably) the behaviors, that show kindness, consideration, empathy, thoughtfulness, or any other positive quality, exhibited by the narcissist. Bad behavior shall be completely ignored, or addressed quickly, then…
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