The Pathologically Unfaithful Narcissist 

The Pathologically Unfaithful Narcissist 

Narcissistic Personality Disorder-Narcissism
So... about a week or so before I found the courage to break the cycle of abuse, and end my decade-long marriage, my husband claimed to have been hired at a new job. He had to travel to a nearby city for a week, in order to attend a training intensive for the job. but managed to to be late on his very first day, showing up unprepared, and without the company uniform. Of course, he blamed his mother for this failure. First, for not providing what he needed for his first, big day... Even though he was perfectly capable of preparing himself, and instead chose to spend the days before his first day of training hanging out with a friend and getting drunk.... Or high. Who know? Then secondly,…
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Divorcing A Narcissist: High Drama & (Seriously) Low-Blows

Divorcing A Narcissist: High Drama & (Seriously) Low-Blows

Leaving the Narcissist
I was served with #divorce papers, on a quiet Monday evening, by my friendly neighborhood sheriff's deputy. I'd been napping because I was feeling a bit under the weather that day. So, I was, really, NOT in the mood for this latest episode of legal drama. I set the papers aside, and told myself I would deal with them in the morning. OK, fine. Realistically, I probably wouldn't have touched those papers again for a week. I did have 20 days to respond, though. So, I figured, why rush to read something that would, undoubtedly, only serve to piss me off? The logic seemed totally airtight, to me. It was a stroke of unbelievably good fortune that my father's curiosity had been piqued by the sudden and unexpected arrival of these particular…
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In A Narcissist’s Own Words: A Series

In A Narcissist’s Own Words: A Series

Narcissistic Personality Disorder-Narcissism
The sequence of events that led many of you here- to my blog, and to countless other sites like it- is eerily similar. In fact, the sequence of events that characterizes the entirety of the narcissistic relationship, is eerily similar from victim, to victim. At first, life is good, and you're thrilled to have met a man whom you're starting to believe could be 'the one'...your soul mate. The way you connected, so easily and so quickly, may have been a little outside the scope of what you had intended or imagined for the relationship but, the depth and intensity cannot be denied. It's unlike anything you've ever experienced before... and it feels amazing. Though, occasionally, there are moments when your beloved seems a bit off, or distant, you explain it away. He told you all about…
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Narcissists will FIND a Way to Discard

Narcissistic Abuse
Once I realized my husband had #Narcissistic Personality Disorder, deciding how & when (or sometimes even IF) I should leave the marriage, became one big, long mind-f*ck. Little did I know that, even if I made the decision to leave him, that I would still be subjected to the final stage of the #narcissistic abuse cycle. Narcissists will ALWAYS find a way to discard you. Their ego can't handle not being the one to "end it". Truthfully, I guess I'm pretty glad I didn't know this, at the time. It would have just made things even more confused...and that was not a good thing. I mean, I had vowed to that man, before God, that I would love, honor & cherish him- in sickness & in health, through good times & bad-…
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