Divorcing A Narcissist- Part 2 High Drama & (Seriously) Low Blows

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing
On one unexceptional Monday evening, in September 2016, I found myself standing frozen in my hallway, holding the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage I’d just been served. A single loose sheet of paper lay on top of the stack. My father found it hidden within the thick packet of the divorce petition. On that page, in bold, was printed;  Notice of Expedited Hearing for Petitioner’s  Ex Parte Motion for Temporary Custody    Apparently, my husband attempted to schedule a custody hearing Ex Parte. Meaning, ‘without ME’. I fought the urge to totally flip out. It appeared as though he did not succeed in getting that hearing (Thank you, God!), seeing as how I received notice that it would be taking place… in just two days.  I had a mere 34…
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The Pathologically Unfaithful Narcissist 

Narcissistic Abuse, Narcissistic Personality Disorder-Narcissism
So... about a week or so before I found the courage to break the cycle of abuse, and end my decade-long marriage, my husband claimed to have been hired at a new job. He had to travel to a nearby city for a week, in order to attend a training intensive for the job. but managed to to be late on his very first day, showing up unprepared, and without the company uniform. Of course, he blamed his mother for this failure. First, for not providing what he needed for his first, big day... Even though he was perfectly capable of preparing himself, and instead chose to spend the days before his first day of training hanging out with a friend and getting drunk.... Or high. Who know? Then secondly,…
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Valentine’s Day With A Narcissist

Valentine’s Day With A Narcissist

Diary of A Narcissist's Wife, Narcissistic Abuse
Valentine's Day with a narcissist, or even without the narcissist, is a cause of dread for a lot of you. Believe me, I get it. I felt exactly the same way a year ago.  Valentine's Day after leaving a Narcissist is a whole new experience It's a much, MUCH BETTER experience. I'm actually kind of looking forward to this Valentine's Day. No, I don't have a new man who adores me and showers me with love and affection. I'm still happily single.  I'm looking forward to the day of love this year because, it'll be the first time in over a decade that I don't have to worry about mind-games, getting the silent treatment, or some other crushingly disappointing event.  Bonus: I also don't have to pretend to love some…
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In A Narcissist’s Own Words: A Series

In A Narcissist’s Own Words: A Series

Narcissistic Abuse, Narcissistic Personality Disorder-Narcissism
The sequence of events that led many of you here- to my blog, and to countless other sites like it- is eerily similar. In fact, the sequence of events that characterizes the entirety of the narcissistic relationship, is eerily similar from victim, to victim. At first, life is good, and you're thrilled to have met a man whom you're starting to believe could be 'the one'...your soul mate. The way you connected, so easily and so quickly, may have been a little outside the scope of what you had intended or imagined for the relationship but, the depth and intensity cannot be denied. It's unlike anything you've ever experienced before... and it feels amazing. Though, occasionally, there are moments when your beloved seems a bit off, or distant, you explain it away. He told you all about…
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