A Light in the Darkness: A Story of Hope in the Face of Abuse

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
I know that my approach to healing the trauma of narcissistic abuse/domestic violence, and moving forward after it, isn’t exactly the norm. I promote forgiveness, and having faith. I encourage holding on to hope in the face of abuse. I don’t promote anger, hate, revenge, bashing narcissists (though, cracking jokes about their insanity is, honestly, pretty much unavoidable) or, spending years rehashing every abuse (at length) in narc forums/groups. Many people might disagree but, I believe that our healing comes from a combination of gaining higher understanding, absolute accountability for our experience, the release of traumas past & present, and the cultivation of unconditional self-love and self-acceptance. And, I know that the ability to see things, from a positive perspective is a serious game-changer. My heinous experience of narcissistic abuse…
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How to Make the Narcissist Pay

How to Make the Narcissist Pay

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
I get these kinds of questions a lot: "Isn't there some way to make the narcissist suffer, the way I've suffered?" "Isn't there some way to make him pay?!” "What? He gets to just walk away, while my life, my heart, my mind, and my spirit are left devastated?!?! It isn't fair!" For today, I'll spare you the, 'This life, with all its mysteries, is just too damn perfect to be fair' speech. (Although, if you're going to keep reading on this site, or if you plan to get involved in any of my coming-in-the-very-near-future programs, you'll have to resign yourself to hearing it, at least, once. LOL) Besides, I totally get it. You want to make him pay. You want him to answer for all the cruel things he's…
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How to Tell if YOU Are the Narcissist

Narcissistic Personality Disorder-Narcissism
Are YOU the Narcissist? How to Know For Sure. There are many thousands of reasons why being married to a narcissist just plain sucks. I can personally attest to that. The sheer number of abuse tactics used against you is enough to drive anyone to the very edge of insanity. And yet, once you're at that edge, the abuses just keep coming. One push, after another... just to see how long it takes before you topple over that edge. Narcissists are relentless that way. Here is a little irony for you… Even though my husband had approx. 77,348 different ways to annoy, enrage, confuse, devalue, manipulate, and objectify me- in the end, none of that is what made the narcissistic abuse experience so terrifying for me. Not to say that…
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Divorcing A Narcissist- Part 2 High Drama & (Seriously) Low Blows

Leaving the Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Healing Trauma
On one unexceptional Monday evening, in September 2016, I found myself standing frozen in my hallway, holding the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage I’d just been served. A single loose sheet of paper lay on top of the stack. My father found it hidden within the thick packet of the divorce petition. On that page, in bold, was printed;  Notice of Expedited Hearing for Petitioner’s  Ex Parte Motion for Temporary Custody    Apparently, my husband attempted to schedule a custody hearing Ex Parte. Meaning, ‘without ME’. I fought the urge to totally flip out. It appeared as though he did not succeed in getting that hearing (Thank you, God!), seeing as how I received notice that it would be taking place… in just two days.  I had a mere 34…
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